My wife Leann and I recently experienced a miracle in our lives. We would like to share some of the details of that miracle with you now.
We met on eharmony. That is a dating web site that matches people based on an extensive personality test. As we were getting to know each other we were surprised to find out how many ways we were alike in our tastes, likes, and dislikes. A friend of ours warned us that most of the time that can be a good thing but sometimes it can cause problems too.
Shortly after we were married, we began to find out about some of those problems. It seems like both of us are hard-headed, opinionated, and very sure that our opinions are the only right ones in the world. That worked fine until our opinions differed. That would first lead to a discussion, then to an argument, and then to anger when we often used our words as weapons. Those angry arguments didn’t occur real often but often enough to cause us distress in our relationship.
One thing that we did right was to make an agreement from the start of our marriage that we would pray together every day. One of the frequent subjects of those prayers was asking God to repair and restore our relationship. We struggled though that for almost 14 years before God answered those prayers.
You may have heard the saying that it is darkest just before dawn. We experienced that too. Last spring one of my brothers passed away, and about a month later Leann’s oldest sister passed away too. In processing our grief, it brought our anger so much closer to the surface that our angry arguments seemed to happen several times a day for a couple of weeks. But that was when God answered our prayers. It was almost like someone had thrown a switch in each of us. The angry arguments ceased abruptly. Somehow it was a couple of weeks before we noticed the change. As of now it has been about 11 months and the change seems to be permanent. All I can say now is praise God for His wonderful gifts.